Why do we need life plans?

Why must we always know exactly where our lives are headed? It baffles me why I HAVE to know where I’m going to be when I’m 50. So I haven’t known what I want to be “when I grow up” since I was five years old. Who cares? Why the constant need to know what I’m going to do in five years’ time? Why can’t people focus on their own lives instead of trying to make me panic about mine?

People assume that because you don’t know exactly what you want to do for the rest of your life that you don’t want to do anything. Not having an immediate plan doesn’t mean we have no ambition. As someone very wise once told me, your twenties is for making mistakes and your thirties are for making plans. I don’t understand why people assume they are so much wiser than you and feel the need to tell you what you need to do and when you need to do it; make plans, now.

NO!!

Life isn’t all black and white. You don’t need to be a teacher or a doctor or a scientist to have a successful life. In my books, success is how happy you can feel going to sleep at night, how many lives you’ve touched, how many funny stories you have to tell. Money isn’t happiness. A stable job isn’t happiness. Living by society’s rules and throwing away your dreams isn’t happiness. If people would back off and stop with the incessant pressure life would be a lot happier for everyone. Everyone is different, not everyone can be conventional. Not everyone can be happy in the highest paying job in the business sector. If people would care about their own lives and let everyone else do what makes them happy, life would be a lot easier for everybody.

I say do what you want, take a year out of your planned out life, have fun! If you want to sleep in, sleep in. If you want to eat cake, eat chocolate cake. If you want to go dance barefoot in the rain, who’s stopping you? People don’t realise that we can do whatever we want whenever we want. All that matters is how you feel at the end of the day and if YOU are looking forward to tomorrow. Life is boring if you plan everything out, and usually plans never work out because life will throw you a curve ball when you least expect it.

So live, love, eat, dance, sing, be happy! And don’t listen to what everyone says you “should” be doing because, really, who cares what they think?

Dancing, chocolate and fun-filled existances!

Aila Maritz xox